FORGIVENESS – THE UNDERRATED GEM

Forgiveness is probably one of the most underrated of all the emotions. It is regarded as a sign of weakness by some, and a sign of strength by others. Lack of forgiveness drives the offended into misery, but when exercised it liberates both the offended and the offender. It has to start with the offended, and sometimes even before the offender apologises.

Knowingly or unknowingly, we all have offended someone. Other people have also offended us. These people can be our parents, teachers, roommates, siblings, fellow church members, workmates, etc. Common logic has it that those close to you are the ones who will offend you. This has both good and bad sides. This is good because you do not have to travel far to express your forgiveness. It is bad because the people who are supposed to help you are the ones who offend you. But remember, you are doing the same to them.

Forgiveness is one of those things recognised and mandated by God. When you forgive, you draw God’s favourable attention onto yourself. That is why I say that it is underrated because not many people know this and consequently, very few people are able to do it. Those who do are special people because they bring healing to our troubled world. Can you be one of those few and special people?

DR H.C.T. GONDWE

Deputy Headmaster (Pastoral)